True Friend

In my earlier post I talked about love and trust, and the importance of trust for a relation. Two days ago, I came to know that the most important part of a successful business is to have a strong team. In the class of entrepreneurship we discussed the reason why organizations fail or have problems. At last we concluded that human resource is the prominent reason for it. It means a person should develop skills for recognizing right person at right time.

"A friend is a person who knows all about you, and still likes you." Elbert Hubbard

In this post, I want to draw your attention on a topic which is very crucial and important part of everyone’s life. I will talk about friendship. Most of us generally face problems to recognize true friends. So here I want to share six points which will help you to recognize your best friend.

1. First and foremost thing, Decide whether you can trust him/her, because for any relationship trust is very important.

2. Decide whether, your friend cares about you or not. It is obvious that your true friend will care you most. A Friend will Help and support you when you are in trouble.

3. A true friend will point out your mistakes in a constructive manner without malice intent. A friend knows what is best in you so he will let you know about opportunities that you have in your life.

4. He/she will appreciate you and be happier than you on your victory or achievement.

5. He/ she will never ignore you in public place or with a group of other friends. He/she will never lie to you, will not hurt you mentally and will apologize if does so.

6. He/she will want to hangout with you out of school/college/workplace.

Remember all six points apply both ways. Are you being all of these to your friends as well? We all need to evaluate our friendships. Don't lie to yourself about being friend with someone that does not feel the same way for you. Ultimately, you would only be hurting yourself.

I used to think I had some true friends in my life. Turns out in many cases I was wrong. When I answered these six points about some of my friends I was surprised that they were not as close as I had originally thought. The real deciding factor for me was "Am I that kind of friend for them?” When I was honest with myself and answered "No”, it was a very eye-opening experience. We must always remember what we expect from our friends and they have the right to expect from us in return.

"In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends." - Martin Luther King Jr.