“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” - Winston Churchill
If you know that your friend is in depression and it affects you due to any reason. The first and foremost important thing you can do to help your friend is to spend time with him as much as you can. Because leaving him alone may lead to unfavorable conditions. Although your friend will always say, “leave me alone”.
When a person goes in depression, he/she usually has feeling that nobody likes him/her or he/she doesn’t believe anyone. It creates an adverse situation. To find out the reason of depression becomes very difficult.
As I know that if a person is not revealing reason of being depressed than it also leads to adverse condition because if a person is able to disclose the reason of being depressed than half of the battle is won.
Some ways to help your friend:-
J Offer emotional support to your friend and develop understanding with him.
J Be patient because sometime you also get irritated. It is not a good sign so control your emotion while talking to him and encourage him.
J Engage your friend in conversation so he/she can’t think about a particular matter and listen to him carefully.
J Never disparage feelings of your friend, but point out realities and offer hope.
J Invite your friend out for walks, outings and other activities. Engage him in mild activity or exercise. Go to a movie or another event or activity that he/she has enjoyed. Keep trying if he or she declines, but don't push him or her to take on too much too soon.
J Last but not least never ignore comments about suicide, take them seriously and try that your friend will not talk so much about suicide.
At last I want to say that if a person is depressed, he/she may feel exhausted, helpless and hopeless. As he/she begins to recognize reason of being depressed and begins to find out solution, negative thinking will fade. Remember “positive thinking always replaces negative thoughts”. So be positive, be optimistic.
Great blog. It's really important to be optimistic in today's fast changing scenario. Good to read it.
ReplyDeleteIt is good to see that you did that much research on your friends & may be that's why you have a lot of friend. At last good job.
ReplyDeleteAll the best
Dear Rohit,
ReplyDeleteNicely written.One thing which i feel is, you could write this kind of post, because you are the one, who helps endlessly, to every person you know. I must say that i have been the part of that. Thanks for all that you do for me.
Expect many such posts from you.
Keep writing.
Regards,
Seema
hi rohit,
ReplyDeletegood job, you have explained very nicely the importance of a true friend in our life and how they stand by our side in difficult situations.today no one bother about one's feeling but you have made it realize through your blog that how a little care help your friend.
Hi Rohit,
ReplyDeleteNice Blog.......
It is surprising to know that you have that much understanding of your friend, anyways good. i like your suggetion, all are practical.
Keep it up...
Yasmin Mansuri